One of the things I enjoy most about my work as a Possibilitarian® is playing with focal lengths. The big picture, the here and now, the next step, and the day-to-day. These are all perspectives I help my people view the world through, so that they can see how possibility looks from various angles.
Have you ever paid a quarter to look through one of those shiny chrome lookout binoculars on a gorgeous beachfront?
We happily dig into our pockets and pay our 25-cents due so that we can see the hidden details of the scenery, delighting in our ability to see beyond the naked eye alone. And although it’s nice to spend whole days people-watching from the pier, we’ve still got to be brave enough to dive into the tide headfirst, experiencing the other side of the lookout for ourselves.
To get to it, you’ve got to work through it.
Refocusing our relationship with uncertainty starts with challenging limiting beliefs.
Where does this “truth” come from? What’s actually true about it? And why do we accept it as true, anyway? My job is to get provocative and call you out on what’s holding you back.
Ultimately, we must be willing to understand the root of the imaginary truth we believe in, dispel it, and move on. More often than not, we wear the fear of others, or worse, wear the fear of disappointing others on our backs. We internalize the seeds others plant in our minds, making for a distorted reality that manifests itself in incredibly limiting ways.
Themes of selfishness and guilt, especially prominent in the female executives I've worked with, also hold an extraordinary amount of power over what’s possible. We work through these feelings by you recognize guilt as a useless force, and creating a comfort level around the meaning you’ve assigned to your experiences.
Eliciting urgency makes it real – bringing possibility into greater perspective.
One of the most effective ways I help people thrive in uncertainty is by accessing personal urgency. Letting the question of what’s at stake hang in the background if you choose not to take the necessary or required leap.
“I’ll feel resentment,” some say. “I won’t live up to my potential, or impact the world the way I want to.” Knowing the why behind the what you’re seeking helps you reaffirm your reason for being in this conversation, and is an important part of the process for dealing with uncertainty. Feeling the effects of what you risk in fear helps you to also feel the effect of what’s possible in bravery, too.
Once you’ve imagined what’s possible, you have to work for it.
Uncertainty is an exciting place to dream, imagine, and explore. But in order to make the possibilities real, you’ve got to put in the work. I help people get precise about what it is they want to achieve, and why it matters at every focal length: longterm, short term, and every angle in between.
I’ve found that exceptional goals come with a secret recipe: they’re equal parts manageable, actionable, tangible, and timely. Which is really to say that they’re able to be accomplished, they’re able to be felt, and they’re able to be accessed sooner rather than later.
@@Good goals don’t get accomplished “someday”. They get accomplished with consistency and persistence.@@
Provoking these goals always starts by asking three repeating questions that define and refine the “what, the why, and then what”. I want you to own it, but I also don’t want you to get overwhelmed by the chase. I like to say that big, hairy, audacious goals are great and necessary – but so is bringing them down to Earth. Keep it manageable. You can’t boil the ocean, take it one cup at a time!
At the end of the day, there’s nothing better than hearing from those who’ve run into the surf headfirst to do the very thing they once dreamt of. People who make the transformation call me up to tell me about it, enrolling me in their celebration and victory dance. Their feet are on the board. They’re standing up. They’ve put ambition to action and they’re doing it all themselves. Talk about a payoff!
Those who are still on the pier will often ask me how they’ll know when they’ve made it.
To me, it’s simple.
You’ll feel possibility fall into place as soon as you’ve made the decision to embrace it, uncertainty and all.